Episode 147
Expand Your Space and Time Horizons for a More Powerful Life - The Demartini Show
The time frame that you hold within your mind determines the scale on which you're able to create and achieve. A time horizon refers to a future point in time when something is to be done. As your time horizons expand, your accountability increases and so does your vision of what is possible. Join Dr Demartini and start to think far ahead of where you are today and no longer be caught in the smaller daily challenges and changes along the path to fulfilling your purpose. Learn how to set goals within your current time horizon, and how to also place greater time horizons on each goal that you set so that you can further expand your mind in thinking about your ultimate objectives. You focus on an entirely different feeling when you focus on immediate gratification as opposed to the long-term goals that come from your heart.
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If you're intrinsically driven, you're going to go farther.
Speaker:It's been shown absolutely clearly that intrinsically driven individuals go
Speaker:farther in life and expand and do more in life and accomplish more and have more
Speaker:achievements in life than people that have to be motivated.
Speaker:Everybody lives
Speaker:with different space and time horizons.
Speaker:Let me give you an example,
Speaker:and this is generic and this may not apply because there's always a few
Speaker:variables, but as a general rule., In a company,
Speaker:the individual who's working in the factory, the factory worker,
Speaker:is very commonly living with smaller in space and time horizons.
Speaker:And they're living maybe day to day or week to week.
Speaker:And sometimes by the time they get their paycheck,
Speaker:they're already needing the next paycheck kind of thing.
Speaker:So from a financial perspective,
Speaker:their time horizons are very short and they need immediate needs,
Speaker:immediate gratification. And their space horizons is small,
Speaker:they live in a smaller space and see a smaller vision you might say of what
Speaker:they're going to do in life. Now that doesn't mean all of them do that.
Speaker:Some have big dreams and they start there and then they just expand.
Speaker:But very commonly the people that stay there redundantly,
Speaker:they have a smaller space and time horizon.
Speaker:The supervisor of that person may be one that lives week to
Speaker:week, maybe month to month.
Speaker:The lower manager may think month to month to year.
Speaker:Middle management may think in terms of a possibly a decade.
Speaker:The next level higher management may think in terms of a generation.
Speaker:And the CEO or the people who is the CEO of the company may be thinking in
Speaker:terms of, you know, a longer time frame,
Speaker:maybe even a century or at least a whole life span, possibly.
Speaker:And then you might have somebody who's the visionary who might think in terms of
Speaker:a century, then may you have somebody who's a real, you know, Sage,
Speaker:that might thinks in terms of way beyond their life, a legacy.
Speaker:And of course the soul, the most authentic individual within us,
Speaker:thinks in terms of eternity, at least from a theological perspective.
Speaker:So the magnitude of space and time in your innermost dominant thought determines
Speaker:the level of conscious evolution you've made. And in some cases,
Speaker:socioeconomically where you're playing,
Speaker:as well as the vision and achievement in your life.
Speaker:So how big is your vision? I I've said for many,
Speaker:many decades now, that if you want to make a difference in yourself,
Speaker:you need a vision at least as big as your family.
Speaker:If you want to be a leader in your family,
Speaker:you need a vision at least as big as your community.
Speaker:If you want to be number one in the community,
Speaker:you need a vision as big as your city. if you want to be number one in the city,
Speaker:you need a vision as big as your state.
Speaker:If you want to be number one in the state,
Speaker:you need a vision as big as your nation. If you want to make a national impact,
Speaker:you need a vision as big as the world. And if you want to make a global impact,
Speaker:you need an astronomical vision. And that's a bigger space and time horizon.
Speaker:So the magnitude of the space and time horizons determine the impact you have on
Speaker:this world. And I've asked millions of people if you, you know,
Speaker:how many of you want to make a difference in the world,
Speaker:everyone wants to make a difference and the different sizes of difference that
Speaker:they want to make. Some people have local differences.
Speaker:Some people have global differences. Today with the internet,
Speaker:everybody has the capacity to global difference.
Speaker:So we have now an advantage to expand those space and time horizons globally for
Speaker:and do something online that leaves a legacy, that lives beyond our life even.
Speaker:Seneca, the Roman poet and politician,
Speaker:said you measure an individual by their most distant ends.
Speaker:The ends of what they see in space and time for their lives.
Speaker:And so immediate gratification is not the same as long-term vision.
Speaker:Immediate gratification can cost you your life.
Speaker:That's why people that are addicted and compulsive, impulsive, addicted,
Speaker:immediate gratifying behavioral individuals,
Speaker:usually have to hit bottom to make change,
Speaker:where people that have long-term visions adapt resiliently to the next thing and
Speaker:they move on and keep expanding.
Speaker:So what is it that allows us to have a bigger vision of our own self,
Speaker:a broader state? Well, let me, first of all, say one thing, a horizon,
Speaker:the term horizon, if you think about standing out in the ocean,
Speaker:which I'm at right now, out, looking in the ocean,
Speaker:you can just see the farthest horizons, where you lose sight of things,
Speaker:your space horizon,
Speaker:and your time horizon is for planning objectives
Speaker:that are at the boundary of what you can perceive, you know, objectively.
Speaker:What can you see for yourself? When I first started at my 18 years old,
Speaker:started my speaking career, I couldn't see what I've gotten to do in my life,
Speaker:at the time. But every time I achieved something,
Speaker:the space and time horizons expanded,
Speaker:and I was able to give myself permission to work locally and then citywide,
Speaker:statewide, nationally, internationally, globally in the world,
Speaker:and have longer timeframes, to think of things beyond my life, perpetuity,
Speaker:what do I want to accomplish in my legacy after my life, even?
Speaker:So the horizons are where the boundary of where the kind of,
Speaker:what you can perceive with your senses and beyond that,
Speaker:where history and mystery kind of join.
Speaker:And that's why if you expand that you also expand your potential in life.
Speaker:And you know, I was told by Ed Tullison when I was about 20 years old,
Speaker:who was a mentor, who I was studying under. He said,
Speaker:never live where you can't see the farthest horizons,
Speaker:never live where you can't see the farthest horizon.
Speaker:Don't allow somebody else's space and time horizon's to constrict yours.
Speaker:And so I made sure that my homes and my offices were always at the top of
Speaker:buildings or top of mountains or out at sea or whatever,
Speaker:so I never had anything blocking my view. In my office in Houston,
Speaker:I'm on the 52nd floor, I can see farthest horizons.
Speaker:In my home in Australia I can see from the 62nd floor,
Speaker:as far as I could see, 63rd floor even, all the way out to the horizons.
Speaker:And I'm a firm believer that that you want to make sure that you give yourself
Speaker:permission to expand, not shrink, to radiate, not gravitate.
Speaker:So that leads me to something that I mention in almost every presentation I do,
Speaker:human values. Every human being lives by a set of priorities,
Speaker:a set of values, things that are most to least important in their life.
Speaker:Whatever's highest on your value is an intrinsic value that your identity
Speaker:revolves around,
Speaker:that you spontaneously are inspired to want to act upon and fulfill.
Speaker:But as you go down the list of values,
Speaker:they become less intrinsic and more extrinsically and derive from external
Speaker:sources to get you to move and do them.
Speaker:And I use the analogy of a young boy who loves video games,
Speaker:if he loves video games and his highest value is video games,
Speaker:you don't need to motivate him to do the video games.
Speaker:You don't need to say 'Johnny, go do that video game of yours.' 'Ah, mom,
Speaker:I don't want to do that.' 'Yes,
Speaker:go do your video game.' You don't have to say that,
Speaker:but whatever's low on his values, like maybe chores or homework,
Speaker:cleaning up his room,
Speaker:you may have to harp on him and keep on him and keep telling him if you don't do
Speaker:your cleaning your room and fix your clothes or whatever,
Speaker:you won't be able to go and play your video game.
Speaker:So you need extrinsic motivation,
Speaker:reward and punishment associations with things that are low on your value. Well,
Speaker:if you need motivation on the outside,
Speaker:you're not going to do as well as when you're intrinsically driven from the
Speaker:inside. I always say motivation is a symptom,
Speaker:never a solution for maximizing human potential in life. So,
Speaker:I'm not a motivational speaker.
Speaker:Motivational speaker's using rhetorical persuasion with rewards and punishments
Speaker:to get people to do things, push people uphill all day long.
Speaker:I have no interest in that. I'm an inspired educator,
Speaker:educating people on how to live inspired lives by finding out what's
Speaker:intrinsically important to them, whatever's highest on their value,
Speaker:and organize and structure their life accordingly.
Speaker:Now that's why I have on my website, the Value Determination process,
Speaker:which is free and complimentary and private.
Speaker:And if you've never taken the time to do the Value Determination process,
Speaker:please go on my website and take advantage of that,
Speaker:because that little tool can help you identify the difference between what
Speaker:intrinsically drives you and what has to be motivated.
Speaker:And if they're intrinsically driven, you're going to go farther.
Speaker:It's been shown absolutely clearly,
Speaker:that intrinsically driven individuals go farther in life and expand and do more
Speaker:in life and accomplish more and have more achievements in life than people that
Speaker:have to be motivated. You've seen them at work.
Speaker:If you have to motivate or keep reminding and push people uphill,
Speaker:it's frustrating, they just do what's bare minimum and they get by.
Speaker:They're looking for pleasure and trying to avoid pain and if they don't love
Speaker:their job and they're not engaged and they can't see how their job duties
Speaker:helping them fulfill what's really important to them,
Speaker:you got to push them all the time. And that's not who to hire,
Speaker:and that's not how you want to run your business.
Speaker:But if you find somebody that's engaged at work,
Speaker:that can see how the job duty is helping them fulfill their life,
Speaker:and they going to work, not for the company,
Speaker:but going there because they can fulfill what's meaningful to them,
Speaker:you don't need to motivate them.
Speaker:McGregor in the 1960s called them Y people vs X people.
Speaker:Y people are intrinsically driven and X people are people that have to be
Speaker:motivated all the time. And the people who are motivated all the time,
Speaker:they're looking for immediate gratification, they have
Speaker:they have to go take a break every hour on the hour,
Speaker:they're always asking for the next break, and when can I get vacations,
Speaker:when do I get bonus package,
Speaker:and benefits and they're always looking for what they can get out of it
Speaker:narcissistically,
Speaker:instead of actually what they can do to make a difference that brings
Speaker:fulfillment in life, intrinsically.
Speaker:Versus the person who's engaged and inspired by their career. They go, oh,
Speaker:I get to be paid to do what I love, this is amazing.
Speaker:And they're grateful for their job and they're present.
Speaker:And we've all walked into a grocery store, a bank,
Speaker:or some clothing store or some, you know,
Speaker:institute that where you can tell when people are really inspired and grateful
Speaker:for their job, they love what they're doing, they're inspired, they're enthused,
Speaker:they're inspired,
Speaker:they're certain and they're more present and they're more engaged and enthused.
Speaker:And you want to do business with them and you draw and magnetize business to
Speaker:them. When you're that way, you draw opportunity to your life.
Speaker:But when you're not, you push it away.
Speaker:Nobody wants to push people uphill all day long.
Speaker:No one wants to do business with someone like that.
Speaker:So you don't want to live your life with a shrinking mentality.
Speaker:You want expanded mentality. In fact, that's why they call them shrinks.
Speaker:The reason why psychiatric people go to the psychiatrist and they call them a
Speaker:shrink is because they're not doing something intrinsic that's inspiring to
Speaker:them. They're doing something that isn't and they're ending up depressed,
Speaker:because they're unfulfilled in life and they're going there and they're going to
Speaker:shrink them by making them, trying to push them, and through drugs,
Speaker:which make you dependent, a juvenile dependent on a drug,
Speaker:instead of being inspired, intrinsically within.
Speaker:So finding out what's highest on your value is crucial if you want to go and
Speaker:expand your space and time horizons.
Speaker:Just like a young boy when he finishes his video game, the second he does,
Speaker:he's wanting to go out and get a more advanced game,
Speaker:more expanded game that's more challenging. See,
Speaker:when you're doing something that's high in your values,
Speaker:you want to go and pursue challenges that inspire you,
Speaker:and you want to conquer them, and you're not going to give up.
Speaker:You see challenges as feedback to help you master the game.
Speaker:But when you're not engaged in the game,
Speaker:you see setbacks and challenges as failures, you don't want to do it, ah,
Speaker:it's not meant to be.
Speaker:So people who know what their highest values are and structure their life and
Speaker:set objectives that match highest values,
Speaker:are the ones that expand their space and time horizons.
Speaker:Any time you set a goal that's aligned with your highest values and you achieve
Speaker:it, you tend to want to achieve even more unachievable's.
Speaker:You want to keep going bigger. You want to do more. You know,
Speaker:when I first started writing books, when I was in my, early as twenties, 22,
Speaker:23 years old, I remember when I finished it,
Speaker:I already had the next one ready go into my mind.
Speaker:And when I finished that one had the next one ready go into my mind.
Speaker:So we have a tendency to automatically spontaneously,
Speaker:keep expanding our space and time horizons and do something bigger over a longer
Speaker:period of time and have patience and perseverance. And as Einstein said,
Speaker:perseverance is one of the keys to success.
Speaker:And when we live by our highest values, because our identity revolves around it,
Speaker:we feel it's really us, we're more authentic and we feel we know ourselves,
Speaker:and we're getting to do what's intrinsically meaningful,
Speaker:and it's a non derivative value from external stimuli and it's
Speaker:something that just intrinsically spontaneously acts.
Speaker:The brain has what is called evoke potentials from the senses and spontaneous
Speaker:potentials in the brain that fire when you're doing something that's truly
Speaker:meaningful to you. And that's the one that expands the space and time horizon.
Speaker:And every time you do, what's interesting is,
Speaker:there was a lovely lady that actually did work and got a Nobel prize
Speaker:on telomeres in the brain. And she did a Ted talk.
Speaker:And if you go and find this Ted talk on the telomeres in the brain,
Speaker:you'll find it. It's really amazing.
Speaker:Every time you're doing something that's high in your values,
Speaker:you create eustress and you are pursuing challenges that inspire you,
Speaker:instead of distress, which is you're trying to avoid challenges that don't.
Speaker:And when you do,
Speaker:telomerase enzyme goes up and the telomeres are added because your
Speaker:space and time horizons grow,
Speaker:your telomeres are added to fulfill those longer space and time horizons.
Speaker:People who set goals and plan ahead and have bigger time
Speaker:horizons and set up big visions, achieve more,
Speaker:and they have less distress in life.
Speaker:And they found the cytokines and inflammatory responses
Speaker:And even if you're working 18 hours a day towards your objective,
Speaker:you don't get distressed.
Speaker:You don't have problems with cardiovascular problems
Speaker:something that's meaningful.
Speaker:And this is very crucial if you want to have great achievement in life.
Speaker:So I'm a firm believer in prioritizing your life,
Speaker:delegating lower priority things, getting on with the highest priority things,
Speaker:and you automatically expand space and time horizons.
Speaker:You build incremental momentum like a domino into a bigger domino,
Speaker:to a bigger domino, every time you achieve something,
Speaker:you tend to want to achieve something greater.
Speaker:And that's why intrinsic values are way more important than extrinsic.
Speaker:And inspiration within is way more important than motivation from without.
Speaker:And being authentic,
Speaker:which is your highest values is way more powerful than being inauthentic in your
Speaker:lower values. Living by design instead of duty. And therefore,
Speaker:if you're not master planning your life and organizing how you want your life to
Speaker:look, you're going to let other people do it.
Speaker:See everyone around you has their own set of values,
Speaker:and they're trying to fulfill their highest value,
Speaker:and they're going to project their values onto you,
Speaker:they're going to love you according to their values and they're going to project
Speaker:what they think is important onto you, in their values.
Speaker:So if you have a person that has a high value,
Speaker:an individual has a high value on education,
Speaker:they're going to project onto you and ask you questions and engage you on
Speaker:something about education,
Speaker:try to show their love by making sure you're educated.
Speaker:Somebody else may think about health and they'll do the same thing with health.
Speaker:Others may be, are you having your children yet? I want to see grandchildren,
Speaker:and they'll project on. Others about your spiritual quest.
Speaker:Everybody around you has a different set of hierarchy values,
Speaker:and they all project that onto you. And if you, in any way,
Speaker:put them on a pedestal and inject those in and cloud
Speaker:the clarity of what's really important to you,
Speaker:you'll devalue yourself in comparison to them,
Speaker:you'll try to envy them and imitate them,
Speaker:which is suicide and death if you will, to your own identity,
Speaker:and you'll be second at being somebody else instead of first at being you.
Speaker:And whenever you do that,
Speaker:you're going to depreciate yourself and shrink your space and time horizons.
Speaker:We're not here to compare ourselves to others.
Speaker:We're here to compare our actions, in our own daily life, to our highest values.
Speaker:How well are we living according to what we feel is most inspiring and
Speaker:meaningful to us? And doing that in a way that serves other people.
Speaker:We're now not here to sacrifice for other people, but to serve other people,
Speaker:doing what we love in a way that fulfills what's important to them.
Speaker:And if we can do that and telecommunicate that,
Speaker:the door is opened up for continued expand and spanning space horizon.
Speaker:You see people like Elon Musk. They definitely have
Speaker:literally in space and long time horizons, you know,
Speaker:future going to Mars and things like that,
Speaker:because they're doing things that inspire them.
Speaker:They're looking for problems that would be an inspiring to solve on the planet.
Speaker:You know,
Speaker:the magnitude of space and time in your life is based on how big a problem you
Speaker:solve in the world. And if you're not solving a problem,
Speaker:you're not going to have fulfillment in life.
Speaker:That's part of what fulfillment is.
Speaker:We have a motor cortex in our brain for motor actions to be of service and a
Speaker:sensory area of the brain for receiving rewards.
Speaker:And the bigger the service we provide, the bigger the rewards we get.
Speaker:We can't get something for nothing or give something for nothing if we want
Speaker:sustainability, we have to put those into balance.
Speaker:And that's what fair exchange is.
Speaker:So prioritizing your life and sticking to high priority things is essential.
Speaker:And what's interesting is, there also,
Speaker:whenever you're not doing high priority things, your blood, glucose,
Speaker:and oxygen goes into the amygdala, which is a subcortical area in your brain.
Speaker:This area is involved in impulses and instincts,
Speaker:which are the two primary distractions that keep people from living by what's
Speaker:highest in their values. So if they're not living by priority,
Speaker:they're more vulnerable. In other words,
Speaker:that's another way of saying it is Parkinson's law,
Speaker:that if you don't fill your day with high priority actions that inspire you,
Speaker:that are deeply meaningful, that are most important to you,
Speaker:your day fills up with all this stuff that people try to project on you,
Speaker:unexpected things,
Speaker:and it wipes out the day and then you feel less important and devalued.
Speaker:And when you're feeling unfulfilled, you go into your amygdala, the blood,
Speaker:glucose, and oxygen goes in the amygdala,
Speaker:and you look for immediate gratification,
Speaker:and that's a shrunken space and time horizons. And we call that addiction,
Speaker:compulsion.
Speaker:And and we found out that people that do have small little timeframes,
Speaker:don't go as far in life. It's like the marshmallow experiment.
Speaker:When somebody's given the marshmallow and they have an option to not eat it now,
Speaker:but if they do, they get two, and if they still don't eat those,
Speaker:they'll get three.
Speaker:Those people that had delayed gratification end up
Speaker:bigger space and time horizon, they end up having more and doing more in life.
Speaker:Learn how to prioritize your life and determine your values and live by priority
Speaker:and expand your game.
Speaker:And that's why I want people to do the Breakthrough Experience because I know
Speaker:what I'm describing here is where I teach people how to transform that
Speaker:systems 1 to systems 2,
Speaker:I'm interested in helping you master how your brain works,
Speaker:master how your life works,
Speaker:so you can master your mind so you can master your life.
Speaker:That's what I'm interested in.
Speaker:That's why I teach people the Demartini Method and the Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:That's why I do these little programs every week. It's My 50 years of research,
Speaker:summarized and condensed down into something you can
Speaker:use the rest of your life. You will use this method,
Speaker:the Demartini Method from now on,
Speaker:and the information there will be priceless and it'll be lasting.
Speaker:And you don't have to worry about whether it's solid.
Speaker:It will be demonstrated because you're going to do it and experience it
Speaker:firsthand. So come and join me at the Breakthrough Experience.
Speaker:There's no reason why you can't live an inspired life.
Speaker:And that's what this program's about. That's what I'm dedicated to.
Speaker:And I love helping people do that. So I want to help you do that.
Speaker:So when you come get ready to work,
Speaker:it's not a rara thing standing on your chairs and singing stuff and all that.
Speaker:It's about learning how to master your life.
Speaker:It's practical and it'll be useful I promise you.
Speaker:So I look forward to seeing you there.
Speaker:I thank you for being with me at this little presentation today.
Speaker:I hope it was mind expanding and I look forward to next week when I do the next
Speaker:program,
Speaker:but come and join me at the Breakthrough Experience that way I can help you do
